Thursday, June 2, 2016

#MotherAndSon - The Respect Effect - A #FlyBy Review of This New Book About Parenting Boys

Mother and Son The Respect Effect
Mother and Son - The Respect Effect
  • Written by Emerson Eggerichs, PhD
  • Published by Thomas Nelson
  • Release Date - April 5, 2016
  • Hardcover, Paperback, and eBook Editions Available 
  • English Language - 304 Pages
  • Prices Vary by Bookseller and Format
I am raising twin boys and as their mother there have definitely been times when I have struggled.  They are about to turn sixteen and the line between their need for love and nurturing versus their desire for independence grows thinner each day.  It was a whole lot easier to allow them to tie their own shoes or pick their own outfits than to watch them growing in to young adults!

I am not going to lie - a part of me will always see them as my babies!  However, we live in a world that is becoming a lot more difficult for young men to navigate.  Our sons need more than out love.  they need our support and respect.

In Mother and Son - The Respect Effect, the author, Emerson Eggerichs, PhD teaches mothers this method of Respect Talk and how to implement it with both younger and older boys.  the approach is Biblical but non-denominational.

In this short video Dr. Eggerichs and his wife give a brief introduction to the book.


Reading the book put a lot of perspective on some of the struggles I have had with my boys over the years and the tools have been helpful already.  I don't think it is ever to early or too late for a mother to use the strategies set forth.

That said, I do tend to bristle a bit at scripted interaction, so I would caution readers to look at the dialogue suggestions as what they are - guidelines.  We still want authentic communication with our kids!  It also starts out very basic and sort of builds up, so the early chapters were not as useful for me.  I found the latter pages were more interesting and was appreciative for the author's honesty.  I think most of the advice is quite good and would be a great resource for families caught up in the cycle of angry outbursts and disrespect as well as moms of little ones who hope to avoid these behavior traps.

It should be noted that this is a conservative Christian author and the approach to parenting rooted in Biblical perspective.  Gender roles are traditional.

After a short testimonial introduction there are twelve chapters followed by five appendices - including a quick start guide.  Finally there is a bonus chapter titled "The Real Reason to Parent God's Way" from one of the author's other books.  The last pages are acknowledgements, notes, a bit about the author, and information on other titles he has written.

I think most Christian mothers would find at least some useful advice from this book and many may consider it life changing.

Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this book sample of the in exchange for this review and post.